The Inevitable

I know that as each day passes I get a little bigger. That is part of the territory of being pregnant. But it always has amazed me when pregnant people talk about how other people feel the need to comment on how big they are. I have been lucky thus far and haven't had that happen... until this week. I walk into the workroom to clock out and this woman is there and says, "You're getting big." Um...thanks? She didn't say it in like an astonished tone of voice as if she was amazed at how big I am, it was more of just a comment, but really why do people have to say that to an already hormonal woman? You don't walk up to a fat person and tell them they are fat, so why would you tell a pregnant girl that?

In the movie Mean Girls this girl Regina stops another girl in the hallway and says something along the lines of: "cute skirt, where did you get it?" and the girl replies it was her mom's and Regina says something like "vintage...very cool." As the other girl walks away Regina turns to Lindsey Lohan's character and says, "that is the ugliest effing skirt I have ever seen."

I am a firm believer in the whole 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all' rule. I think there are probably two types of people in the world. Those that lie and tell you something that isn't true, or those that don't say anything at all. I'm more of the not saying anything at all type. If ever I compliment you, you can be sure it is genuine. I will never ever tell someone they did well on their talk if it sucked or that someone's kid is cute if I don't think it is (because I think that it's almost a natural instinct to see a little one and say, how cute!) or even to say your new haircut is nice if I don't think it is. I try to avoid that. If you ask me directly if I like your haircut and I don't I might respond with something like, "Wow, I can't believe you actually cut it off!" rather than lie.

My whole point is, I know that I am getting bigger. It's a fact of pregnancy. However, I would much rather nobody tell me anything partially mean in my sensitive state of mind. But also, I would much rather I not have anyone lie to me either. So if I look huge, so be it...but feel free to not tell me so....also, feel free to not lie and say I look good if I don't!